Back off, mom!

We stopped at a park today while I was touring the state of Minnesota to eat some Subway and burn some energy. After we filled our tummies, we went to play. Nick encouraged Ollie to try to walk across these:

Apparently I’m paranoid. But I do know better. I was hovering. He was clinging for life, scared to try to move from one hanging platform to the next, and I was instructing, cheering, reaching out…

And Nick said “Back off, mommy. You need to let him do it.”

I shrunk away, knowing he was right (must let that preschooler discover he can do things instead of instilling doubt in him!), but still just wanting to help so much.

And you know what? He made it. He did it, all by himself, which prompted me to jump around like an idiot in the middle of the park and then bust into a quick rendition of “We Did It!” from Dora. Wow, how my life has changed.

Anyway, play resumed, and I quickly found myself at the top of a platform that Ollie was climbing to. I rushed over to get this shot:

I’m not kidding you, as the shutter clicked, he was saying “You need to back off mommy and let me do it myself!”

It’s a sad day.

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Why I Have Resumed Locking My Kid Up At Night

My Wednesday was eventful.  I was woken from my sleep semi-early for my kid – a little before 7, and his little 2 and a half year old brown eyes were just beaming at me.  I slid out of bed reluctantly, and began the morning routine of milk, cereal, and then preparing a bottle for Emmie.  I set the table for Ollie, and heard his sister making noise in her room, so I head towards the hallway to go get her for breakfast. 

I stopped, slightly confused when my foot went ‘squish’.

I panicked when I heard water rushing.

I screamed for my husband when I saw water pouring – and I mean POURING – out from underneath the closed bathroom door. 

I whipped open the door, honestly expecting an overflowing toilet, but was greeted by an overflowing sink, with the faucet on full blast.  And a ton of water.  TONS.

The good part for my son is that we were so freaked out and worried about what to do, that we didn’t have time to get really mad at him.  He got off kind of easy, considering the circumstances.

Further examination showed that Ollie decided to brush his teeth before waking us up.  He dropped the cap of his toddler toothpaste down the drain, which competely blocked it.  He also at some point squirted the entire tube worth of toothpaste down the drain, as well.  Then he decided to try to pull the cap out, which resulted in him breaking the whole drain assembly.

He then left the water running, for whatever reason that probably made some kind of crazy sense in a toddler’s head, and then shut the door, so mom would never know what happened…. right?

Wrong.

I’ve never been more thankful that I bought a Bissell carpet shampooer a few years ago after a closing.  We started with that, sucking up as much water as we could out of the carpet.  I think if there was one thing we did wrong, it was worrying more about the carpet in the hallway than the bathroom, because the water poured down the heat duct in there.  Because our house is on a crawl space (no basement), we now have a boatload of insulation that pretty much froze instantly, because it was -20 degrees and the water leaked out somewhere in a joint.  Fantastic.

Anyway, we pulled the carpet up after we got it somewhat dry (and I should add that I wash my carpets regularly, but a “deep clean” by flooding results in some SERIOUSLY dirty carpet water) and discovered linoleum underneath, which made us feel a little better.  The subflooring is okay!  Luckily we acted fast enough on most of it that other than replacing some insulation, a drain assembly, and maybe some carpet, we’re going to be okay.

We did estimate that we pulled approximately 12 gallons of water out of the carpet with the shampooer before we pulled the carpet up.

I learned a very important lesson.  A door knob safety cover on the inside of my son’s door is a necessity.  Who knows what else he would do in the middle of the night!

I guess potty priviledges at night have been revoked.  (And I was totally stoked about his progress in that!)

All It Takes Is Getting Spooked….

… for you to become a freaked out ball of anxiety. 

Okay, maybe that’s just me.  I’m not sure.  What I do know is that now I suddenly find myself even unable to sleep.

Last week I was in my Buick, headed towards Mora (and ultimately the metro) with my kiddos in the back seat.  I was cruising down a county road at 55 mph, and came around a curve.  About 3/4 of a mile ahead is a small dead-end dirt road that a few houses sit on.  Very little traffic on that road.  But I immediately noticed a red car going ridiculously fast down the road.  And I instantly knew, looking at angles, that we were going to get hit if they didn’t stop.

I began to slow down a little, sure that the speeder would start braking for the stop sign, but he quickly passed a reasonable point to begin braking without even slowing.  I began to get concerned.

Now this is Minnesota.  His road was sheer ice.  My road was slick.  I began to brake harder, but not much was happening…. my anti-lock brakes were trying to grip, yet they just couldn’t catch.  Just as he hit the stop sign, he began to brake.  He shot out in the road, and I came to a stop just before hitting his car.

What is the natural reaction?  Up until that point it was sheer terror, and then I instantly slid into a moment of fury.  I glared – and seriously considered getting out of the car.  I looked into the car and there sat 5 boys, I’m guessing around 16 or 17 years old, in a Dodge sedan, all staring back at me like I was the one in the wrong.  How dare I be cruising down the road right now?  How dare I expect them to stop at their stop sign?  HOW DARE I GLARE AT THEM.

I honestly can’t tell you why I didn’t get out of the car to at least chew some butt.  Instead, they backed up, and I passed, glaring, but passed.  The whole way into town they were a ways behind me, but I could see them, and I thought about following them, but I didn’t.  I was suddenly overwhelmed with the first thought when I thought that an impact was certain.

“They’re going to hit Emmie.  They are going to hit Emmie’s side… my little baby.  Is my baby going to be okay when a car rams into her side of the car?”

I know my next thoughts were just every possible option I had to avoid them hitting me.  It’s amazing how fast those neurons can fire when they need to.  Maybe I should take the ditch because then we will avoid impact but I think the ditch might flip us with the amount of snow it has but if I go in at this angle we should be okay if I go into the other lane it would be a head on collision and that might be safer or I could take the ditch on the other side into the field because it has less of an incline and fewer drifts and we’re more likely to then stay upright and if I….”

You become a giant run on sentence.  Yet after it was all said and done, all I could think of was “what would have happened if they hit Emmie’s door?  Would she have been okay in her car seat?”

I struggled with the car seat issue the whole time I was pregnant.  I knew that you should always try to put infants in the center, and I did that with Ollie.  However, I had very little luck with getting two seats side by side in my Oldsmobile.  When we bought the Buick, the seats we had didn’t sit side by side, so Ollie is behind the passenger seat and Emmie is behind my seat.  I have just realized that Emmie was approaching the weight limit on her car seat, so I knew I was going to have to move her into something else.  And now I was spooked.  I began to worry that my choices in car seats weren’t good enough.  So the research began.

The very week Target had a stellar deal on the Graco Nautilus – a forward facing seat that harnesses to 65 pounds, then can become a belt positioning booster and then a backless booster up to 100 pounds.  I bought two – the pink one and the gray and black.  I figured at that price, I could store the pink one for a while.  I know my husband had a hard time with the idea of spending money on a car seat right now that we didn’t need (and might not, which I hope to figure out soon so I can return it!), and wasn’t sure what my sudden obsession was with car seats.  We went home and I chucked my kid into the seat in the living room, and was disappointed at how my little giant fit.  (By the way, the Nautilus is at Target for $130 until this Saturday, and there is a great review here if you are thinking about this seat.)

He looked crammed in at the shoulders.  I posted on facebook, and got a lot of recommendations.  Some people suggested a booster for him, since he is 44 pounds.  While he does meet the weight limit, he is only 2 and a half.  This story is why I’m not ready to de-harness him yet.  (Moms, be ready – you will probably cry.  And don’t do like I did and read it before bed.  I couldn’t get it out of my head to fall asleep.)

Now, to be fair and completely honest, my son stayed rear facing until just before his first birthday.  Yet we didn’t have much of a choice – he was weighing in at 36 pounds – too heavy to be rear facing in his car seat anymore.  So I hadn’t put a ton of thought into how long I would rear face Emmie.  I know Ollie was so much calmer once I did – he could see me, and was happy to smile (or glare!) at me whenever he pleased. Emmie is a totally different story.  She doesn’t care that she’s rear facing.  She can see her brother, and that makes her happy.  (Unless he has a snack and she doesn’t, and then she just screams.)  And she’s always in the 50th percentile for height and weight.  Right now she’s just a hair over 20 pounds according to our scale at home, at 11 months old.  Perfectly on track.

So I hadn’t really put a lot of thought into extended rear facing.  I did have a nice new fancy car seat for kids 20 pounds and up, but in reading their manual, even they don’t recommend moving your child to front facing at the minimum weight the car seat allows.

I began to realize there are a lot of common misconceptions and some facts that really weren’t known about seating.  And that’s why I decided to write this blog.  I wanted to share the information I found with you.  So here we go.

  • Did you know that the American Academy of Pediatricians actually recommends that you keep your child rear facing until they are at least 2 years old and 30 pounds, but prefer until they are too big for their seat to rear face – which for some newer seats can be as high as 45 pounds?  Many people believe that it is just 1 year old and 20 pounds, but that is the minimum that most states require.  In other words, your child’s doctor should be recommending to you to keep your little one rear facing for longer than one year.
  • Also, even though boosters are available and legal for kids over 40 pounds, the AAP says that “Although boosters with shields may meet current Federal Motor Vehicle Safety Standards for use by children who weigh 30 to 40 lb, on the basis of current published peer-reviewed literature, the AAP does not recommend their use.”  They add, “Significant injuries to the head, spine, abdomen, and extremities of children in shield boosters have been documents in crash investigations resulting from ejection, excessive head excursion, and shield contact.”  (Kyle David Miller is a prime example) (http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;109/3/550)  
  • The leading cause of death for children ages 1-21 in the United States is motor vehicle crashes.
  •  Did you know that in Sweden kids are rear facing in their car seats until they are four or five? And did you know that death due to motor vehicle crashes in Sweden for children are barely existent at all?  There are some stunning articles at www.carseat.se where all the family members in the crash died except the rear facing 3, 4, and 5 year olds.  My heart aches for those children that lost their family members, but the fact that they lived with virtually no injuries should tell us something!  Plus, they’ve been doing this since 1965!  They add, “Significant injuries to the head, spine, abdoment, and extremities of children in shield boosters have been documents in crash investigations resulting from ejection, excessive head excursion, and shield contact.”  (Kyle David Miller is a prime example) 
  • Also, I had absolutely no clue that it was illegal to use a car seat from another country.  Sweden’s car seats have higher weight limits – higher than what we can get here.  I found a few forums where parents were complaining about that.  I guess the thought had never crossed my mind.  Random fact of the day.
  • I read multiple places that head on collisions make up 70-76% of all car collisions.  I was a bit skeptical on that number (still am), but an important fact remains – if you are in a head-on collision, chances are you’re going a pretty good speed.  If you get rear-ended, however, most of those collisions are at low speeds – less risk of harm.
  • In situations like mine, where you have a rear facing infant (almost toddler) and a forward facing 2.5 year old, who should be in the center?  I believed that the infant should.  After all, she’s smaller, so more at risk, right?  Nope.  All of the literature I’ve read says that your forward facing kid should be in the center if you have to choose, as they are much more likely to suffer injuries. 
  • Did you know that once your kiddo hits 48 pounds (this may vary depending on your seat and your car), you need to stop using the LATCH system and use the regular belts to hold down the seat?  (Not to get confusing – they can still use a harness seat, it just needs to be fastened into the car using the seat belts, not the LATCH system.)  They do recommend, however, that you keep the top tether connected.  (Read your car seat manual for more information on this, and check your car manual, too.  Some LATCH systems may have different guidelines.)
  • Also, my Oldsmobile was made the year before LATCH came out, and at my car seat safety class I took before Ollie was born, it was implied that the LATCH system was so much safer than using the regular car belts to secure the seat.  However, that’s not true – it was just a standard way to “idiot-proof” car seat installation.  (I read that exact term – idiot-proof – somewhere, just don’t remember where.)  So if you have a car without LATCH, please don’t beat yourself up over it!
  • Please, please PLEASE don’t buckle your kid into their car seat with a jacket on.  I read a general rule of thumb somewhere that you should not have to adjust the harness straps on a regular basis – only because your child has grown. If you have to pull the harness out to get your kid fastened in, chances are you’re not getting it as tight as it would normally be, leaving a lot of “fluff” room between the belt and your kid.  This video does a great job of demonstrating the danger with even a relatively thin coat.    I read another recommendation to keep kid Snuggies in the car – love the idea!  I always preheat the car, de-coat the kids before strapping them in, and re-coat them before getting them out.  Sometimes I will put Ollie in a light fleece and just bring his coat with, just in case we were to break down or something.  Emmie is easy – I can throw a bunch of blankets over her seat and she’s okay until we get into the store or house, but those days are ending!

So my plan?  Keep Emmie rear facing for a while still.  While the facts were interesting and helpful in my decision, the videos are what really convinced me.  These are my three favorite.

These are the ones that really blew my mind, though.  Looks what happens in a crash forward facing.

Now look at the difference when the child is rear facing!

I know kids don’t have the ability to reason like we do, and there’s no easy way to explain to your kid that they are safer rear facing, but that video makes ME  want to rear face in my car!  (And I have read that even adults would be a lot safer rear facing in the car, but hey, it’s hard to drive like that.)

I could keep bombarding you with facts, but I’ve given you the basics – now you can do more research if you want.  There are great resources out there.  Look at www.babycenter.com, www.car-seat.org, www.aap.org, and the Kyle David Miller Foundation blog, http://kdmf.blogspot.com (their website appears to have been hacked, and I did contact them about it, but the blog is safe, and I’ve  read the whole thing.)  Find a car seat technician and talk to them.  Ask questions.  Challenge the “basic rules”.  But MOST IMPORTANTLY, do what is right for YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.  Because while I might think that this is the ideal situation, I know that every single situation is different (just like both of my kids – very different), and only you can decide what is right for you to do!  My goal in this blog was not to verbally smack you over the head with facts and say “YOU MUST DO THIS”, but to share what I found, what helped me, give some references for some information (because many blogs don’t have references to their facts), and hopefully ease a little bit of the fear that I’ve had since last week with the near-accident.  Maybe now I can sleep a little better?  I hope so.

I Can’t Count As High…

…as the number of days it’s been since I blogged.
(Please know I am kidding… I really can count that high.)
I felt motivated by my traumatic day yesterday, and the fact that I’m avoiding schoolwork tonight.
So… yesterday!
If you don’t already know, Ollie is a giant ball of mobility. I’m guessing he weighs around 28 pounds. I meant to have him weighed yesterday, but forgot.
So anyway, like any other morning, he’s tearing it up in here. He’s crawling everywhere, pulling himself up on the walk-behind toy he has and walking across the floor, standing in the middle of the room, no-hands style. I’m plugging away, trying to get some work done, answering emails. He beelines for the barstool and attempts to pull himself up. I sigh and start to stand up, ready to retreive my child from the dangers of furniture.
He bends backwards in some strange way, trying to look at the light about 4 feet behind him on the ceiling. I can see it coming…. and there he went. He falls backwards before I can get to him. The back of his head hits the seat of the dining room chair, and the barstool hits him in the front and lands on top of him.
This was the moment I’ve been dreading. There’s blood. Lots of blood.
He’s trying to sit back up as I throw the barstool to the side. When I’m sure I can move him, I pick him up and began the chant “Oh my God, Oh my God…” which I think I repeated for at least 10 minutes. Everything was quick. I ran into the bedroom, bleeding kid in my arms, to throw on some jeans, because pj’s were not going to cut it. I grabbed a shirt to pull over my tank top, and threw my shoes on without socks. (One thing I cannot STAND is tennies without socks…. YUCK.) I grab the diaper bag, which I just got done emptying, and frantically run to grab a bottle and add it to the bag. The entire time, I’m debating in my head how to drive to the hospital with Ollie in his seat safely buckled in, me in the front, and putting pressure on his head to stop the bleeding. I RUN out to the car, throw open the backseat, and start fastening Ollie in. Meanwhile I call Nick at work and tell him to meet me at the hospital, and call my mom and tell her to be waiting outside, because it was an emergency and I needed her help.
Ollie is screaming like crazy, and absolutely covered in blood. He’s not wearing any pants, and his cute little legs were smeared red. His new Clifford shirt was covered.
I throw myself into the driver’s seat and reach for the ignition. No keys. Where the f… are my keys?!?!?!?!?! I run into the house and am throwing stuff all over looking frantically for my keys. I’m still muttering “Oh my God”, and am 98% sure that my kid is going to die while I’m LOOKING FOR MY F’ING KEYS.
Find them in a plastic bag with new clothes for Ollie and apparently my iPod. (Discovered the iPod later in the mud by the front door.) Plastic bag is hung up on keys, and I drag clothes out the door and drop them in a trail to the car. Don’t care. Leaving.
Mom is in her driveway, and I can honestly say that at that moment I was REALLY glad that she lived on the way to town. She drives, I put pressure on Ollie’s head to stop the bleeding.
Halfway into town, I recommend that mom try to stay reasonably within the speed limit, because I don’t have a purse with me. No insurance card, nothing. Could be interesting. She does good, and we don’t see any cops anyway. I focus on keeping Ollie awake, and for part of the drive, it was a hard fight. I clapped right in front of his face a couple times, I sang to him, we played patty-cake, and I made him follow my movements.
Pull into hospital, where Nick comes rushing out the door. He’s already pre-registered Ollie, and we walk up to the check-in desk. Bleeding has really slowed down now, but he still looks horrible. They call the nurse to come get us, and we are pulled into the first room to get checked out.
She does some careful cleaning, trying to find the cut. I had given up, because I couldn’t stand another second at home looking for the cut when there was blood everywhere. That’s one thing about living 15 miles from town… you leave, then assess the situation. If there’s any possibility that it’s really serious, you get out of there.
Eventually she finds what really isn’t a huge cut. (But it sure bled a lot!!!) She calls back and asks if Aleathea has a room. When she hangs up I say “We get to see Dr. Aleathea?” She looks at me a little confused and says “yeah.” I think at that point I started to relax a little, and while it was nice to feel some relief, at the same time it left me nearly on the verge of tears. Everything was catching up to me now.
Ollie got to settle in with some apple juice and the situation was assessed. The super-glue method was opted for, under the agreement that trying to hold that kid still to put stitches in was going to be near impossible, and it would be two stitches at the most.
So prep began. What fun. Nick swaddled Ollie, although he missed his legs. The nurse held Ollie’s head, and Ollie got MAD. Aleathea applied super-glue, and Nick got kicked in the crotch. I found this convienient, since I was seriously questioning why I would want to have another child to go through this with.

I call the second one his “gangsta” look. I don’t know what that is about. He’s strange. Anyway, you can see the cut right around his hairline.
He had a pretty good egg swollen up on his head when we left the hospital, but a few hours later all that was noticable was the glue and a little bit of dried blood. Today you can see the clot under the glue pretty well.
Stopped at Tanger Outlet Mall today and there were free Easter Bunny photos. Ollie looks adorable, but you can see the scab in the picture. (If you didn’t know it was there you might not notice, though.)
Then we stopped at Target, where Prasad, the cashier, asked to hear the story. When I come in with Ollie, he talks to him, and watches him… I think he likes kids. I explained what had happened, and he shook his finger at Ollie and said “you’re a naughty boy, pulling stunts like that.”
So the last two nights I’ve been super-paranoid mom, checking on Ollie repeatedly all night long. He’s shown no symptoms of having hit is head – no sleepiness, no bruising, no big ol’ knot on his head… just a scab covered in glue. But, it makes me feel better to make sure he’s okay. He even slept all night long like normal. Although I haven’t found anything that messes with his schedule except if he wets through pre-morning. One night he did at midnight, which was crazy, but I was awake working on Children’s Lit, so I just brought him out to the couch and read him Charlotte’s Web. He cuddled. He only cuddles when he’s super tired or sick. I wish he did it more…
I love that kid.

Parent Questions

Okay guys, I have approximately 10 weeks left and I’m starting to freak a little. I’m trying to figure out what I need and how to get it. SO… help me out a little here, if you can, and give me some answers to some pressing questions I have.
1. Did you use a travel system? If so, did you like it? Could you have lived without it? Did you use it often, and how long did it last you?
2. Did you use a diaper pail, like Diaper Genie? Did you like it?
3. How about getting around with the baby? Did you use a carrier, sling, or anything like that? What kind, how much, and did you like it?
4. Do you think starting off with a convertible car seat is a good move? The only thing I’m thinking is that it may be easier to have the travel system for a while…
5. For bottle feeding, did you use anything special? Anything you liked or couldn’t live without?
6. Did you ever have your baby sleep with you? Did you use one of those special in bed sleeper guard things, and did you like it?
7. Did you have sun shades in your car?
8. What is the one thing you COULD NOT live without in the first year or so? Why?

Thanks for your help. Like I said, I’m getting a little crazy. 🙂
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Jess
1)What is a travel system?2)LOVE MY DIAPER GENIE! Especially since we have dogs! Get it!3) Used an over the shoulder sling for the first 12 weeks of Max’s life…it reminded him of being on the inside I think…when he was in there I got peace! : D4)We have a car seat that sets in a pod in the car and fits in a stroller and we LOVE it! It is wonderful! The car seat snaps into carts while shopping and snaps into the stroller for walking. LOVE IT! 5)DR. BROWN’S Bottle’s are the best! No burp problems or upset tummy’s! 6)Max slept with me all the time because other wise I didn’t sleep. I kicked my husband out…he slept in our guest room and moved the baby in. Yes, we bought one of the GRACO net bedside things that has the bars that slide under the matress. It was $1.50 at the thrift store next to Savers in St. Cloud. 7) We have a sun shade…it does not stay up. : (8) I could not live without:For Me: When you come home from the hospital have tuck’s pads. Buy them in the medical section at Coborn’s by the band-aids…they help. For Max: a pack of cloth diapers to use as spit up cloths and onsies. YOU WILL BE FINE! REPEAT AFTER ME…I WILL BE FINE! : D
Posted by Jess on May 14, 2008 – Wednesday 9:54 PM [Remove] [Reply to this]
Josie
I WILL BE FINE….lolVery helpful. Travel system is basically what you described in number 4…. stroller/car seat/base combo.Good point on the diaper genie + dogs comment…. good to know!You’ve been awesome… I still have the emails you sent me MONTHS ago, too, with the lists of things I need! 🙂 I use it when making shopping lists! Thank you so much!
Posted by Josie on May 14, 2008 – Wednesday 10:00 PM [Remove] [Reply to this]
Cassi
1. We loved the travel system. It was nice because of the infant seat and now we can use the stroller without. :)2. I’ve never used a diaper pail. I think it’s a waste of money. As long as you throw diapers away in the trash, that’s all you’re really doing anyway. Betty Jo (my boss) never used one either. BUT Julie Ann (my old boss) had one in each of the kids’ rooms. It was a pain in the ass to lug those dirty diapers (they get HEAVY) down to the trash every other day. Again, Kerry and I agreed they were a waste of money. BUT I will say that they take care of the smell somewhat. :)3. I never used a sling, but I didn’t really do a lot of cleaning, working or such when he was awake anyhow. 4. No. Starting with the convertible seat, you would need to find something to tote Baby around in the grocery store, shopping, ANYWHERE you go for the first 3-5 months before Baby can sit up on his own. You can’t take the convertible seat in with you, it stays in your car. THAT’s where the handiness of the travel system comes in, most infant seats nowadays are shopping cart friendly and you save money buying the seat/stroller combo.5. I used AVENT bottles. I LOVE THEM. One problem is that if they get liquid in between the nipple and top they leak. With the Brown’s bottles though, you have like 6 parts to wash every time. So unless you’ve got a dishwasher, that’s a lot of dishes to do. 😦 Avent and Browns are both good for upset tummies, also Kerry’s mom SWORE by the Playtex bottles. So really, whichever brand you buy, you’ll be fine. Also there’s bottle vs. the bags. We used to the bags every once in a while when he was young. They’re okay. You still have bottles to wash etc, I personally didn’t see a need for them, but I can see how to some parents they can be convenient. I’m sure I’m not really helping you on this one, but EVERY ONE is different when it comes to bottles. I personally love the Avent brand. 🙂 ALSO on that note: are you planning on nuks? IF so, there’s a million brands of those too. You just won’t know until baby is born which one BABY prefers. Some moms buy one of each brand and try out what’s best, some just buy one brand period and Baby just adapts. 6. Yes, I did have Kevin sleep with me every once in a while. When I was up at the cabin, I used a bed sleeper (I have one you can borrow) I liked it. But he mainly slept in his crib/pack-in-play/bouncer chair/swing. If he was really fussy at night to get some extra sleep I would just bring him in and he’d sleep right next to me. They say that it’s not “good for the baby” there are issues that could arise (ie rolling over on him) but I’m such a light sleeper, so….7. I did have sunshades, they fell down. Kerry has tinted windows. A lot of times when he was an infant, I just put a light blanket over and had his sunshade on the carseat up, so the blanket wasn’t ON him on him, just over him. But I would still buy the sun shades. 8. You know I don’t think there was any one particular item I could NOT live without. A lot of the things we had: swing, bouncer seat, pack-in-play, etc were more conveniences than nesseceties. If you want your life to be EASIER, you get this stuff. Otherwise you CAN live without them. Some moms SWEAR by playing soft music for Baby to go to sleep to, I personally have never really had a problem putting Kevin to bed (‘cept for that little bump in MD). I was lucky. Just laid him down and he’d go to sleep on his own. Some moms SWEAR by the carriers. Some moms believe in the sleeping schedule. To be 100% honest, Kevin put HIMSELF on his own schedule…as most babies will if you let them. Just follow their lead. Feed them when they’re hungry (typically every 2-4 hours the first few months, then every 4 later like 6-9 months they’re down to 3 times a day), put them down when they’re tired, etc etc. I personally believe in letting children set their own schedules, but babies are VERYadaptable so if you feel you want them on your schedule feel free. :)And I completely agree with Jess: YOU WILL BE FINE. Lol. It does get a little crazy with a baby, but hey isn’t that why we get pregnant? Lol. Hope this helps, but unfortunately you just won’t know until baby is here. :(Love you! And Good Luck!!
Posted by Cassi on May 15, 2008 – Thursday 6:26 AM [Remove] [Reply to this]
Matt the punching bag…
ask Shawna, I got nothing…
Posted by Matt the punching bag… on May 15, 2008 – Thursday 9:15 AM [Remove] [Reply to this]
Jenn
1. We got a travel system for Clair and it was awesome . we never had to wake her up to get in or out of the car and they can stay napping in them if you need some peace. we can still use our infant seat now clair is 10 months. I use our stroller all the time.If you get a travel system( I suggest it) get one that can adjust/tighten the straps in the front I have an evenflo but I like the chico or graco better. I would not skimp on your infant seat and stroller. make sure you like it. we also got the extra base to go with it. life saver.2. We used the diaper champ. you can get it at target. I like it because you can use regular trash bags. you dont have to buy special bags like the diaper genie.3. We used the carrier/carset. it was too hot for me to have her super close when we were out side( she liked to be swadled though. 4. I really think the travel system was easier because when it gets cold you dont have to put the baby into a cold carseat in the car. There arenite infant carier covers you can use with the infant seats.5. we started out with the walmart cheapie bottles then moved to the Avent bottles (I dont like them, they leak if the top is not on right) we now use the playtex nurser systems because they colapse when the liquid is sucked out and the bottle liners are always sterile. I an not a fan of the dr. brown bottles. they can get expensive. It comes down to the baby what does the baby like. we did not but many untill we found out what she liked to use. different babies do better on different bottles. I dispise the vent air bottles they leak after being washed a ton of times. ( I have learned they work because I work at a daycare in the infant and toddler rooms).6. I did not want her to sleep with us I did not want to roll over on her and it helped us stay close at night when that was the only time we got for ourselves. now she sleeps so well in her own bed she loves having her own space and i did not have to get her transitioned out of our bed.7.I love my sunshades I dont know what I would do w/o them. I have the stick ons that are like window tint. they wont flip up when they are bumped.8. I loved the quilted cloth diapers for spit up rags. you can yse them for burp rags or to put under baby when ypu are in a store or resturant. those fold down beds can be nasty. I loved having a good swing we could let her sleep in it we started her solids in it( used it like a chair). she held her bottles by herself in it and it let me sleep. (be careful to find one that will hold a larger baby ours goes up to 22-25 pounds.) I LOVE our Mega Saucer. it keept her busy so I could get some things done around her. I never had to worry about stepping on her when I was vaccuming around her. she loved(s) bing in it. MOSTLY haivng really good friends around to call or come over to give you a break (sometimes i prefered friends over family).
Posted by Jenn on May 15, 2008 – Thursday 7:10 PM [Remove] [Reply to this]
Jenn
you will be fine just let your baby let you know what it needs. they tell you what they need , like and dislike. our doctor suggested to us to have her sleep on her own and not get up at every whimper (at night) wait until she is really ready/crying. it was great advice FOR ME because it helped get her on a good eating schedule . she ate more during the day and whe was sleeping through the night at 5 weeks. every baby is different you will know what you like and the baby will be loved.it will all be ok. you have tons of friends who are here for you.
Posted by Jenn on May 15, 2008 – Thursday 7:19 PM [Remove] [Reply to this]
Cassi
Go Jenn! Your advise was awesome and I totally agree with you. BABY WILL TELL YOU WHAT HE LIKES. Lol. We can’t tell her enough. 😉

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